Red Flag / Green Flag
Judge the cards, compare your verdicts. Find out which habits you both call a red flag.
What it's for: Alignment on values, dealbreakers, and quirks.
How to play Red Flag / Green Flag
- Midnight deals a card with a relationship behaviour or belief, such as “Jealousy is a proof of love”.
- Each of you marks it a red flag or a green flag on your own iPhone or iPad.
- Your verdicts stay hidden until you have both voted, then they appear together.
- Talk about the cards you split on. The deck covers communication, trust, values, boundaries and more, with more than 150 cards.
When to play it
When you're dating someone new and want a low-pressure way to explore values, or with a long-term partner who's curious which deal-breakers have quietly shifted over the years.
Who it's good for
New couples Established couples Long-distance couples
Sample prompts and questions
Real cards from the Red Flag / Green Flag deck in Midnight. The full deck is much larger and goes further than these.
- It's healthy for couples to keep separate finances
- Checking each other's phones should be acceptable in committed relationships
- A partner who changes after being together for years has evolved in a bad direction
- A partner who is secretive about their phone is hiding something
- Flirting while in a relationship is okay
- They cancel plans last minute without explanation
- They keep your relationship a secret
- They invalidate your past experiences
- They ignore your calls and texts for days
- They weaponize your vulnerabilities
How to get more out of Red Flag / Green Flag
Answer for yourself, not for the relationship you want to look like
The whole value of the reveal is the gap between your two lists. If you mark things the way you think your partner wants them marked, the comparison screen tells you nothing you did not already agree on out loud.
Treat a mismatch as information, not a verdict
A behaviour one of you flags red and the other flags green is almost never a dealbreaker on its own. Usually it means the two of you learned different rules about it, from different families. Ask which rule they grew up with before arguing about who is right.
Run it again a year later
Deal-breakers drift quietly. Couples who replay this after a big change — moving in, a new job, a first child — routinely find two or three flags have swapped colour without either partner noticing.
The mistake most couples make
The most common failure is turning the reveal into a scoreboard. If one of you starts counting mismatches as evidence in an argument you were already having, stop the round and come back to it another day. The mode is built to surface differences, not to settle them.
Frequently asked questions
Is Red Flag / Green Flag judgmental?
It judges behaviours, not people. The cards describe things like checking a partner's phone or needing space after an argument, and the point is to learn where your lines are before they come up for real.
Can I play Red Flag / Green Flag long-distance?
Yes. Each of you plays on your own iPhone or iPad and votes sync between you, so it works on the same sofa or across time zones. The reveal simply waits until you have both answered.
Is there a neutral option?
No, every card is red or green. Being made to choose is what makes the comparison useful; the conversation afterwards is where you add the nuance.
Is Red Flag / Green Flag free in Midnight?
The four games are part of Midnight Pro. Midnight itself is free to start, and one subscription on either phone unlocks the games for both partners.
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